My dream is to be a father.  It’s not the dream I had when I was a little boy.  That dream was to be an ornithologist.  Together with my mom we’d saved and raised thousands of birds, starting with a pair of weavers that came down from our back garden’s willow tree.  The dream died when I realised that I had no real interest in studying the growth cycle of the frog or dissecting a seed.  I dropped the subject in my teens and only in my 20’s did I discover a love for biology in the form of human anatomy and physiology. 

What I know now was that my dream wasn’t working with birds but the caring, the saving, the restoring, the watching of things grow.   Being a father!

For years I’ve felt a longing to share what God has done in my heart and whenever I do, it just comes out wrong.   I’ve decided to now journey where my head and my heart connect with my hands and my speech.  The heart has finally over taken pride, the fear of failure and being downright wrong to communicate the life that I live. 

So do we need fathers? Why did the Paul the apostle say that the Corinthians had many teachers but they needed fathers? Why did Jesus say that He came to reveal the Father? Why did he not say I have come to teach you a better way to live? I believe it is that teachers can teach you what they know and fathers reproduce who they are.  Fathers help give birth to something.  Teaching on its own is only behaviour modification.  We need to become something by birth (not by training and our efforts) and then be taught who we are. Then we simply live out who we are rather than trying to become something. 

Jesus said that no man can enter the kingdom unless he goes through a birth process.  God’s entire plan
before the world began was not that we would be conformed, moulded and shaped by life and circumstances but that we should have a quality of life born on the inside of us.  When something is  ‘born’ it then simply ‘is’ and does not need to ‘become’.  That’s the wonder of being a father.  We get to participate in a life where our children are born in our image and likeness, and it’s without any effort. 

Myles Munroe says that ‘Fathers are difficult to find because fathering has more to do with care than with charisma. It has more to do with responsibility than with performance. It has more to do with leadership,
accountability and love than with fame, exposure and glory. Fathering requires a commitment to nurturing and developing others rather than using and benefiting from others.’

Biological fathers and/or those that reveal the nature of fathering is why I write.  I want to learn more about who I am as father and I want share that so that others can experience the life that sharing will reproduce.  I truly believe as we unpack and discover who a father is, we’ll find ourselves living as both fathers and sons, reproducing both fathers and sons.

Jill Cartledge
8/5/2013 20:15:11

Love it Steve. Welcome to the world of blogging and I will be one of your most faithful followers. I get to be the first person to comment on your very first blog. Yeah!!

8/5/2013 22:53:04

And I get to be the second!

This is wonderful Steve. My dream is to be a father too. And I'm living the dream!

Andre van der Merwe
9/5/2013 00:05:48

Loved your first post Steve. Your website is easy to read and has a nice "clean" feel to it.

I appreciate the way you expounded on being a father. An interesting question that pops up is Jesus's words:

Matt 23:8 But you must not be called Rabbi, for One is your teacher, Christ, and you are all brothers. 9 AND CALL NO ONE YOUR FATHER ON THE EARTH, for One is your Father in Heaven. 10 Nor be called teachers, for One is your Teacher, even Christ. 11 But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant.

How would you balance this with being a father here on the earth? I know Paul the Apostle called Timothy his "son" and also called himself a "father" to several others, but weren't these merely terms of endearment, or was there really something more going on? Was Paul's idea of being a "father" to certain people possibly his interpretation of Jesus' idea of discipling? Or was this maybe something that Paul "missed"?

Just some thoughts, let me know what you think!

Congrats again with the site!!!

9/5/2013 00:32:23

Thanks guys

@Andre - I think Jesus is dealing with the pharisees and hyprocrisy. Under the law you will automatically oppose yourself as demonstrated in the first verses of Mt 23. So in the context of understanding the difference of the law system of moulding and conforming (being taught) as a son and disciple of Jesus, you must reject that system and embrace a new and living way which only your Daddy in heaven can do in you. Let Him give birth to you and in you and then let Him teach you who you are. And then we all have the same Daddy we get to be brothers! Hooray!

With regards to Timothy, it's a different context - Paul saw something of himself reproduced in Timothy. I'd probably say that what he saw reproduced was the nature of the Holy Spirit. Discipling involves people seeing that God's nature is on the inside of them, He is love and people will see you are disciple by this love. In other words a father in this context is someone who has seen God living in themselves, knowing that He is love and then is able to see that revelation or belief system born on the inside of someone else.

9/5/2013 01:20:43

Welcome to to blogosphere Steve!

What you wrote is very true. Reproducing Christ in us instead of merely changing one's behaviour is the difference between reality and acting. I can act like somebody and do a near perfect impersonation, but behaviour modification alone can not reproduce the person I'm impersonating.

Trying to only act in the same way as another will result in people becoming like the sons of Sceva who said 'In the name of Jesus whom Paul preaches' and we all know how that turned out!

I look forward to reading more, especially since I need to start preparing for fatherhood at some point... ;)

9/5/2013 15:07:34

Steve, you Rock Man! I loved this! Scatter those seeds, my friend!


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